Unmasking the True Self: Heartache to Rediscovering Value!

It doesn’t matter if that person was our friend or some past love; the pain is mostly the same. They do not care, and we know that, but the heartaches ask the same lame questions: why did they treat us like that? How could they betray us? Was it easy for them? Would they ever feel guilty? How could they sleep like a baby when we are having a chaotic mind?

We end up choosing the wrong people in our lives most of the time because we don’t know our worth and our true value. Maybe because of our low self-esteem, past traumas, and not knowing our true value. It’s not our fault; we develop ourselves in a way without even knowing. We tend to push back the people who love us unconditionally and surround ourselves with those who don’t deserve us. Neither are we open to love nor able to show how we feel for them; we waste our emotions on the wrong people instead of investing in the ones who truly care for us, and who see our value that we often overlook.

Moreover, societal pressures and unrealistic expectations contribute to our tendency to seek validation from others, even if it means sacrificing our well-being. We become ensnared in toxic cycles, clinging to relationships that drain us emotionally and mentally, all in the name of companionship.

Maybe self-love knowing our worth and understanding our wants can direct us to someone genuine. Indeed, it isn’t easy to forget everything, those moments or the times when you saw your future with them, but we cannot hold on to people who let us go that easily. All we need is to open up our eyes, widen our horizons, and know our worth! Don’t keep yourself in delusion by thinking or making up dumb scenarios that people will change or they will come back. Even if they return, that’s because of their loneliness; don’t let your guard down for some mere person who didn’t even think twice before behaving like that.

Remember, if they wanted to, they would have! There is nothing in between. Embrace your worth, cherish those who truly value you, and let go of those who don’t deserve a place in your life.

By Aishwarya Gupta

~ASVP:)