“Words are not just mere combinations of letters that make up a sentence but something that creates combinations of emotions in one’s head. It’s so easy to speak out in anger or sadness towards someone, and while we might later apologize, have we ever pondered the impact of such heart-killing words? A parent’s harsh words towards their children can leave a lifelong impact; a teacher’s criticism might significantly influence a student’s life choices; friends making fun could plunge someone into self-doubt; and lovers expressing anger may trigger deep-seated insecurities. The common thread among all these scenarios? The words used.
We often attribute societal judgment as the root cause of our overthinking, insecurities, and thoughts of giving up. However, in reality, the relationships we’ve cultivated are the primary sources of our anxiety, unease, and influences on our decisions.
If we cannot express kindness to make someone happy or feel valued, then we have no right to wield cruel words to satisfy our anger. Whether it’s parents, siblings, friends, partners, mentors, or anyone else, we have no right to make a person feel unwanted without reason.
We’ve made everything so easy and taken it all for granted that we forget what the other person might be going through and what they’ve done for us. We become so engulfed in our anger that we forget the past and the good deeds; all that remains is our perception of their wrongdoings. Promises and loving words after a sweet gesture can transform into words that momentarily stab someone’s soul.
Beyond societal influence, an individual’s deepest concern lies in their relationships. When someone they rely on deeply causes them anguish akin to a nightmare, expecting them to manage their emotions becomes an unreasonable demand. If we conceal our emotions, we are seen as strong; if we express them, we are labeled as sensitive. It’s perplexing!
Let’s not wait for our loved ones to drift away before realizing our oversight. Instead, let’s replay the moments and express the words meant to be said. Instead of making someone feel worthless, let’s appreciate them for simply existing!
Let’s be sensitive for a moment, take a minute to thank the people around us, and acknowledge how empty our lives would be without them. Let’s strive to be neutral and transform some words in our dictionaries—if not good, then at least not bad.”
Aishwarya Gupta
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