The Realisation: If it’s gone, it’s gone!

You must have had an object in your childhood with whom you used to be so attached, that whenever you go somewhere you took that with you or even slept with that.
What’s surprising? Every child has that right?
But where is it now? Maybe slowly and steadily we lost interest, or we mistakenly lost that object.
But what we took forward is the habit of attachment, but the difference is that now we are attached to other humans.

Slowly and gradually when we entered the era of adolescence and adulthood we realized that people are temporary, and we have different frequencies with everyone.
Can you hold on to people who are no longer in your life? Neither part of daily conversations nor experiences. Even if we try to we cannot make people work according to ourselves.

Sometimes it’s our mistake that separates us from them, sometimes it’s there, and sometimes it’s just circumstances. We try connecting with them to resolve the gaps but have we ever thought that they require us in their lives anymore? Or are we forcing ourselves upon them just so we don’t feel left out and guilty?
People say forget it and Move On! But is moving on easy? Is forgetting easy? No of course not!
When we cry over an object getting lost how can we forget a whole person with whom we once shared our emotions?

Moving on is not forgetting them, but it’s about accepting the fact that they are gone for good, and no matter how much we try after a certain period things cannot be restored.
Holding on to things that hurt us is the most offensive crime that we are unknowingly committing against ourselves.

If you were once together, remember the happy times, at least you got to know a new person, gained a new experience, or might they have brought some significance to your life.
Don’t live in the hope that you can restore things with them, maybe you didn’t change but time, gaps, and experiences changed them, and expecting the old bond with them results in nothing but hurting yourself and your self-esteem.
Life is short, and experiences taught us multiple things, maybe they changed for good or you changed for the better.

Because you can’t be mean to make comebacks in someone else’s life without their permission just because you realized something or you felt insecure or missed them. They might have a different life now in which they do not want to make you a part of it. It’s the harsh truth, the sooner we accept it the better!

Just accept the fact of losing someone and realizing yourself that: if it’s gone, it’s gone and there is no coming back!

It’s just the buzz….🐝

~Aishwarya Gupta